Don't Make Me Angry!
It is not uncommon for a narcissist to have an out and out
meltdown when you decide to confront them.
They are very shocked when you start to see things that bother you about
how they are behaving. Their anger can
quickly escalate into full blown rage and accusations toward you. They do NOT appreciate being confronted or
even questioned.
You can often see how the narcissist is processing thoughts,
based on their body language. A cutting glare is only one way that this type of
abuser can make you MELT in fear in their presence. Often, the narcissist only needs to give a
facial expression to get their victim to
cower and squirm; they may find this to be quite entertaining and therefore,
worth doing often.
It is always your word against theirs, and since they
usually abuse in private, nobody is likely to believe what a terribly abusive
individual the narcissist is. They are
very subtle in their abuse when it serves their purpose and, especially when
they want to hide what they are doing behind closed doors to you.
Narcissists rarely ever change, but if there is one who has
the possibility of learning new ways, he or she will need to be totally
isolated from all forms of narcissistic supply. You can probably see why this
might be nearly impossible even if a narcissist were willing to attend
counseling sessions. Even the very act
of a counselor analyzing the narcissist in an office, can be taken as a form of
narcissistic supply by the person with the narcissistic personality disorder.
If possible and safe to do so, the best manner of dealing
with narcissists is to NOT deal with them.
Find a way out or at least learn not to take their issues on as your
own. If seeking counseling for yourself,
be sure to find a trauma specialist, not just any counselor, and don’t be
afraid to ask the therapist if they are familiar with narcissistic abuse and also
post traumatic stress disorder, because that is the situation you will find
yourself in after abuse by a narcissistic individual.
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