The Hated Child: Narcissist's Scapegoat/Target
Most families have children in various positions. There is always the "black sheep" or the "favorite" in families, but in narcissistic families, this goes even deeper and encompasses the entire fabric of the family.
A hated child of a narcissist is subjected to abuse by a so-called parent that was supposed to love and care for him or her. This child never was loved, protected, cared for, and may have been shamed and punished for things they did not do or for disappointing or embarassing their parent.
This child has high need for achievement and is a people-pleaser. He or she begins to find ways to comfort and self-soothe with material possessions. Often, such a child grows up having a high sex drive, because of equating sex with acceptance, closeness, and love.
The hated child will sometimes act out and get into trouble in order to get any type of attention. They will often do things that are dangerous or mean to their siblings or others.
As adults, these children will often become pathological liars, emotionally distant, clingy, dependent, codependent, and insecure.
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