2 Borderlines Fear You Leaving and Narcissists Fear Losing You as Suppy

Both will make unreasonable demands and expectations, which will be frustrating for you because you will “fall over yourself” trying to avoid offending them (there is NO WAY NOT to offend them). If you try to leave a borderline, they will do almost anything to keep you, but a narcissist will most likely react to your leaving with rage or blame or just ignoring you. Narcissist’s body language is seen through “the glare” or a haughty presence of conceitedness. Borderlines tend to look dejected, depressed, insecure, and are verbal about feeling empty, alone, rejected. Narcissists are bored easily and restless. Borderlines are preoccupied with cutting, self-abuse, self-deprecation. Narcissists and Borderlines both treat people as objects, but where Narcissists are envious yet resentful of the person they envy, Borderlines are envious but feel like they could never be as good as whom they envy. Narcissists will “give” to earn trust so you will serve her/him and then control will be possible Borderlines will “give” gifts in order to produce enmeshment with you. Narcissists do not fear losing you because they need you, but rather because they will have to work hard to find another supply person. Borderlines actually FEAR losing you because they find their worth through your reactions to them.