Here is a situation that seems so impossible that I do not know what to do. My daughter has a friend whose mother appears to be very narcissist indeed. Everything the child does is all about reflecting well on the mother, the child is punished when she tries to get closer with my daughter (mother fearing losing control of child), there is a definite lack of empathy, a favoritism of the "golden child" and scapegoating of my daughter's friend, the typical facial features common to narcissists, such as the wide-mouthed grin, the public false persona, the dominating over her partners, almost the whole 9 yards are showing loud and clear and red flags have been there for me from the "git go" with the lady.
This is the problem though, besides the obvious facts that the daughter of this person is being mentally, psychologically and possibly otherwise abused, if I report her, she will retaliate by punishing her daughter with disallowing her to hang out with her friend (my daughter). If I don't report it, the abuse will continue. Even if I do report it, most likely, the authorities will want to see visible scars on the child and will return her to the mother to endure possibly WORSE things!
I think my only hope is to EDUCATE the girl to understand what a healthy family is, to teach her that she is not doing anything to DESERVE the mistreatment, and to help her realize the mother is most likely mentally ill.
I am totally open to other suggestions if you think there is something else I'm missing here. Help?
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